Understanding Co-Parenting Challenges
Hi, I’m Tulsa family attorney James Wirth with Wirth Law Office. Today’s question comes from a dad who says:
“My son’s mom moved in with her boyfriend, but she’s upset that I took our son to the park with my girlfriend. Can she keep my son from me over that?” Here’s what you need to know.
Navigating Court Orders and Parental Rights
This situation touches on a common issue in Oklahoma family law: whether or not there are rules about introducing a child to a new romantic partner. Sometimes, when a custody order is issued, one parent may request a no overnight guests of the opposite sex provision or a no introductions to significant others without notice or consent clause. Courts in Oklahoma often grant those kinds of provisions when requested, especially if they serve the child’s best interests.
So, if your current court order includes language restricting overnights or introductions to romantic partners, you’ll want to follow it closely. If your order doesn’t say anything about that, then there aren’t specific rules unless you take the matter back to court.
It’s important to remember that Oklahoma family law is always centered on the best interest of the child. Introducing a child to a new partner too soon can be seen as poor judgment, especially if there’s a pattern of short-term relationships, which might create instability for the child.
Enforcing Visitation and Addressing Concerns
Now, if your child’s mother is denying you visitation over this issue, and there is a visitation order in place, that’s a problem. Oklahoma law has a specific process for enforcing visitation. You can file a motion to enforce, which should be heard within 21 days or set for mediation. You can even file a contempt citation, and in some cases, the other parent could face serious consequences for violating the court’s order.
Of course, if there’s no current custody or visitation order in place, then the first step is to go to court to get one, so you have something enforceable.
When it comes to who these new partners are, the court will look at all the facts. Is Mom’s boyfriend a safe, stable person? What about your girlfriend? Do either of them have a criminal background, drug issues, or other concerns that could affect the child?
Why Professional Guidance Matters
Taking your child to the park with your girlfriend is very different from moving a boyfriend into your home. From the court’s perspective, her actions may raise more concerns than yours, but ultimately, it depends on the full picture. These cases are fact-intensive and complex. You don’t want to rely on general advice. You need to speak directly with a Tulsa child custody attorney who can evaluate your specific situation and help you make the right strategic decisions.
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To schedule a confidential consultation with a lawyer at Wirth Law Office, visit MakeLawEasy.com or call 918-879-1681. Our team is here to guide you through the complexities of family law and ensure your rights and your child’s best interests are protected. Don’t navigate this alone; reach out today to start formulating a strategy that works for your unique situation.
